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Q<\/strong>:\u00a0\u201cHow can I get over the frustration of crashing my car? All of the circumstances of my crash are very fortunate (recently got track insurance, chassis\/engine appear to be undamaged, no bodily harm to myself or others). I \u2018know\u2019 all of these things and tell myself to be grateful, but I can’t help being angry at myself for crashing to begin with, and wasting half a day with a pro coach.<\/em> I know I can use this time to read up\/practice on a simulator more, but until I get on track again and prove it to myself, it feels like this frustration won’t go away. Do you have any advice on dealing with these emotions?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n A<\/strong>: Thanks for the question. I\u2019ll try to help with this beyond \u201cGet over it!\u201d Because I bet that doesn\u2019t help at all. \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n This is one of the most frequently asked question I get. And because of that, I wrote a fairly lengthy piece of advice about \u201cRecovering from a Crash<\/a>\u201d\u00a0here<\/a>.<\/p>\n I\u2019m sorry you had a crash. One way of thinking about this is that there are two kinds of drivers: Those who have crashed, and those who will crash. It happens to us all. Still, you\u2019re right, and doesn\u2019t feel very good.<\/p>\n I like to look at any mistake I make \u2013 or drivers I\u2019m coaching make \u2013 are\u00a0learning-takes<\/em>. As long as you\u2019re not physically hurt (and even then\u2026), consider what you learn from a mistake, and use that to your advantage. Having crashed, and learned from it, it\u2019s less likely that you\u2019ll crash again. And as I pointed out in the\u00a0Recovering from a Crash<\/a>\u00a0article, the odds of crashing versus not crashing are actually fairly low. Think of how many laps you\u2019ve driven without crashing, and compare that to the times you have crashed.<\/p>\n I don\u2019t know the details of what you drive, where, and what types of track events you\u2019re participating in, so I don\u2019t know what your objectives are. But I\u2019d suggest making LEARNING your primary objective (maybe you already are, and if so, that\u2019s great). It\u2019s easy to get caught up in the \u201cchasing lap times and results\u201d mindset, and often that leads to less learning, and therefore less improvement. Focus on learning, and you will improve; improve and you\u2019ll turn faster lap times and get better results. It\u2019s a bit counterintuitive\u2026 until you think logically about it.<\/p>\n Focus on learning, and knowing that you will make mistakes \u2013 if you\u2019re human. It\u2019s how you recover from the mistake that matters most. I don\u2019t think being angry with yourself is going to help.<\/p>\n But if being angry with yourself does help, then maybe I\u2019ll come over and be angry at you, too. And we can ask some other people \u2013 maybe even some you don\u2019t know \u2013 to be angry at you, as well. In fact, let\u2019s get every track driver in the country to be angry with you, because if being angry helps, then with all that anger around you\u2019ll be back up to speed in no time.<\/p>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/speedsecrets.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Untitled-300x208.png\")
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